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"Adulting" can be thought of something like the young following instructions until they actually become an adult. The idea is that being an adult is more than just age. Adulting a statement of wanting to be a proper adult.
This is a huge and complex topic, but the interest I have is to whittle it down into manageable pieces which can at least be roughly explained. It's likely this will be a zombie project for as long as I'm alive. .. maybe longer. :)
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- 1 Why the concept of "adulting" exists
- 2 Housing
- 3 Education
- 4 Working
- 5 Eating
- 6 Sleeping
- 7 Cleaning
- 8 Shopping
- 9 Juggling
- 10 Personal time
- 11 People
- 12 Other things
- 13 You are not alone
- 14 Being alive
- 15 Meaning
- 16 Learning
- 17 Teaching
- 18 Relationships
- 19 Employment
- 20 Building a family
- 21 Unsorted
Why the concept of "adulting" exists ∞
Increasingly in the last generations, there are young who grow up without any idea of "how to be an adult". This is largely because even if a child has both parents, they will both be working. This is further exacerbated by the fact that too many mothers are coddling or hands-off, leading to generations of adults who have a failure to start.
Their lineage of strong male role models watered down, or even being entirely absent a father, they don't even have the character to grow unassisted. Yes, strong men and especially a (strong) father are absolutely essential to building a well-rounded and self-supporting adult.
Housing ∞
Education ∞
- Intelligence - "being smart"
- Education
Working ∞
Get a job. Maybe even one you like.
Wealth / Money ∞
It's fine to tie the ideas of wealth and money to employment.
This comes in two primary forms:
- Get money
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Retain money
duh, but it's more subtle than that.
Getting money ∞
- Employment
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TODO - Investment
Retaining wealth ∞
- Pay off your debts to the maximum of your ability, even if it hurts your ability to have fun. Debt costs money.
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Do not pay for services you do not use. Investigate your bills, and avoid paying for things which you can do yourself. Trade your time and any inconveniences for saving money.
When shopping, spend less:
- Used
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Repair what you have.
- Tailor your clothes.
- Coupons
- Time-limited deals.
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Cheaper "off-brand" alternatives.
However, there are other things you should not forget:
- Don't buy luxury goods or foods (like eating out or snacks).
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Consider your food
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TODO - Taxes
Eating ∞
Sleeping ∞
Few think about how to improve their sleep.
Cleaning ∞
TODO - This ought to be a better topic.
Shopping ∞
You need to use money to buy things and pay for services, but you don't have enough.
Spend money on the things you regularly use, not on the things you don't really need. For example, spending on a better mattress, bedding or a chair is important because you use these things a lot. Spending on confirmed-high quality is well worth it.
Be concerned about Wealth / Money, see #retaining-money[not existing].
Juggling ∞
How do you prioritize?
Personal time ∞
One's body ∞
One's mind ∞
Get your head on straight.
Projects ∞
(Projects)
These are your significant endeavors to improve yourself. Adulting itself is self-improvement.
- Diet and Physicality for weight loss.
Hobbies ∞
These are the things you do in your spare time. While they are actions, they may be for pure entertainment with neither goals nor consequences.
Projects may be just for entertainment.
Example hobbies ∞
People ∞
You interact with people a lot. Understand them.
Other things ∞
(Referenced above)
Buy food in bulk ∞
I highly recommend buying food in bulk; you save a lot of Wealth / Money.
Be sure to note the expiry of that food; the last thing you want to do is have it go bad before you consume it all.
Food in bulk is also like "investing" in food. This reduces food anxiety, and if expenses become problematic you actually have an area in your life where you can draw money from; you can temporarily use your grocery budget.
Meal prepping will save you time and probably have you eat tastier and healthier food.
Plan your meals well, and learn how to use up any of your leftover ingredients before they expire.
Buy almost-expired items that you will use right away.
Investing in a large freezer might work out well for you, especially if you buy almost-expired meat.
You are not alone ∞
Though you are unique, and the circumstances of your youth are unique, the feelings are not. Humans have a build that's largely in the same configuration. We have the same sorts of parts in the same sorts of places. We end up seeing the world fairly similarly.
Kids who have been protected from "the real world" by their parents, grow with a selfish and expectant mindset. Kids who have been sheltered grow up innocent.
History ∞
TODO - I cannot recall the details, but there was an Ancient Greek who wrote a commentary complaining about how the youth are spoiled and under-educated and how civilization will fall unless major reforms are made and education is improved. Sound familiar? This topic isn't about already-adult people looking over at the young, but it should be a statement of how there is something similar between generations of youths.
Close-peers ∞
Self-knowledge ∞
Regrets ∞
Not your fault.
Being alive ∞
Eating ∞
Hygiene ∞
This isn't a topic I've imported from old notes.
"Shaving" isn't a project I've explicitly created, but Razors is. For frugality, be sure to see Safety razor blades or just consider a good-quality electric shaver.
Sleeping ∞
"Health" ∞
Don't self-diagnose.
Meaning ∞
Religion and theism ∞
Ideology and nationalism ∞
Spiritualism and rationality ∞
(Beliefs)
Learning ∞
Reading ∞
(Reading)
Online studies ∞
Teaching ∞
Relationships ∞
Heartbreak ∞
Employment ∞
Building a family ∞
On mothers and women ∞
(Females)
Women are nurturers who concern themselves with comfort, coddling, and holding back. They are defensive, worried, frightened, and backward-thinking. They are best-suited for children under 9, depending on the maturity of the child.
On fathers and men ∞
(Males)
Men are the negotiators, troubleshooters, and judges. They set boundaries and are forward-thinking. They are best-suited for children 9 and over, depending on the maturity of the child.
Created, with rough organization.
I put in a bit more work.
added some images
I had a draft last updated 2018-03-06 which I finally integrated.
Updated the date to reflect the adjustments.