Just tinkering with a perspective that bounced around my head just now.
There are two frames of mind when doing paired martial arts training.
Permission is "softer", and honesty is "harder". Both of these things are important, and both pose problems.
I can vaguely understand the idea behind stances.
I can also understand the benefits of a "hard" stance.
But defending with a resistive stance is like being a closed door. The attacker can either open the door - find a way to get you to soften, or kick the door in.
I'd prefer being a revolving door.
What happens when you "kick in" a revolving door?
Standing upright and spilling water onto your head.
See also slow dousing
Awareness > Dousing >
My variation on Dousing. The main idea is to slow down the action in order to better perceive and learn.
This method of dousing is somehow easy and natural for me. Fear and tension become easier to analyse and adapt to. Relaxation in both posture and breathing becomes simple.
Health and Time management are incredibly important!