Women seem confused about "what to do" with regards to men.
Heterosexual men like not-men.
So for a women to attract them, they have to be not-a-man. This means that basic characteristics have to be not-man.
There are various sorts of men, some of whom like exaggerated sex characteristics like large breasts, a hip-to-waist ratio, etc. There are others who like the opposite, and I promise the vast majority are either somewhere in between or detached from that concept. More on that later.
There are characteristics that a woman simply can't help. When they can't be helped, don't try. That effort is better spent elsewhere.
However, women have a problem with accountability and don't want to face their inadequacies even when they are improvable. Man up. Women should work on the easy things, then go back for the hard things.. and never stop. Some things can't be expected to stay changed and require continuous effort. Effort toward them needs to be a lifetime hobby.
Elephant in the room: Fat? Fix it. It's hard, but can be changed. Change. Don't just keep at it, keep keeping at it. Every moment you are fat is a moment you could either be spent working at it or recovering from having worked at it. Don't eat Frosted Flakes for breakfast, fried chicken for lunch, a pie for dinner and expect magic.
Some men like the characteristics you don't like. You're damned if you do and damned if you don't? No, work on the things that make you happy. Hint: Expecting a man to fall out of the sky and accept your lazy ass isn't a good plan.
Back to being not-a-man. Yes, this means shave and pluck, dress like not-a-man and don't act like a man. If you've determined there are men, or one particular man, who likes certain things then you're free to focus, but don't use that as an excuse to be lazy. There are too many fat chicks who are "pretty in the face" because of expert makeup skills but focus on just that because they're sloths.
Pick either a cake or a beefcake. You can't have both.
Thinking of it from another perspective, people are often attracted when there are overlapping interests. It's unrealistic for a land whale to think a muscle-headed bro's-bro would be attracted to them. Sure, it can happen.. but don't count on it.
All of this has been about a woman changing themselves, but this perspective is, on its own, incredibly unhealthy. Every person should be seeking their own self-improvement in their own way and having fun with life with no expectation of reward or recognition. A lot of women have "getting a man" as their major hobby and life goal. That's sad.
Happiness brings confidence. Confidence is attractive as all hell.
Earlier I said there are men who are detached from the concept of characteristics. This isn't entirely true, but a man, deep down, is attracted to the fundamental concept of a woman. Given all the women in the world, a particular man might go elsewhere. However, in a room full of women, including you, a man has limited choice. A choice that includes you, irrespective of your comparison to others.
Women have a dumbfuck concept of competition. They have an in-group where they will jealously knock down their betters. As a group they want to feel superior to every other women. There are twisted concepts of cooperation and collusion which exist, as well as a deficiency of what men would generically call "honour".
It would be a dream of mine to convey just how nasty these things are in a man's view.. how incredibly dangerous they are, to the point of making women toxic, and dating, relationships or even association dangerous. I could say something dumb like "don't be that woman", but I neither know how to say what "that woman" means, nor what I would replace "that woman" with.
The "last woman on earth" concept does somewhat apply. If a man is given limited choice, the homogeneity of a group of women will absolutely not serve any one individual. With no distinguishing characteristics, a woman trapped in a clique cannot stand out. This creates probably the most difficult problem a woman can face.. being noticeably better than their peers without being torn apart by those same peers.
All of the above gets thrown away when a woman lowers her standards. But doing so will create an everlasting regret. There's a balance above low standards and below unrealistically high standards, somewhere hovering around an improved self. There's a big difference between "I didn't try, and got him" and "I tried, and got him".
There's a sort of reverse, when a woman hasn't improved herself but lands a man. What if the man lowered his standards? This is a terrible frame of mind. One cannot know if the other has fallen in love with them for who they are or because their expectations are lowered.
The best case is always self-improvement.
A lot of this is complete bullshit since women refuse to approach men because of the accountability and consequence and instead force men to approach them. They get their choice. However, it's still important for a woman to improve themselves to improve their approachability.
Lastly, a lot of women go a lazy and entirely dishonourable route. Don't be that woman. Yes, men are catching on and talking about it. We talk about the friends we've lost and mourn the lives which have been ruined.
